Expectations: My Take

At some point in our life or maybe at every stage, each of us has dealt with others' expectations. It's not always a bad thing to be expected of because in a way it keeps you pushing forward. I know a few people that love this too, they love it when others show interest in their lives, maybe because it makes them feel notable? We find it easy to blame others for the way they act when it comes to our own lives but we also know that we all have inbuilt expectations. As individuals, we all have our own levels of expectations. 

The real problem arises when we give a lot of weightage to others' expectations to the point that we start living for their approval. You can't knock on every door to change someone's mentality but what you can do is what's right for you. What we need to understand here is we don't have to live up to everyone's expectations. Listen before you talk but make up your mind very clearly of the path you want to follow. If you haven't made up your mind yet, you'll remain stuck at the same staircase forever. Push yourself to the desired path because if you don't, you have to listen to others. If you are assured by your effort, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. Haha, this sounds like a lot of philosophy.

By now you might be wondering if I face some kind of pressure, duh, of course! Who doesn't? especially when you are a student. I am sure many of you reading this can relate. Parents and elders expect you to be first and an all-rounder in EVERYTHING. They keep pushing us to do our best, which honestly is very caring and thoughtful of them, but it turns very riling when they don't keep in mind our potential. All that we can do to avoid this situation is 'communicate'.....Yea, yea I get it. Communication isn't something that every household is good at! Well, in that case, all we can do is work on ourselves so that we don't get affected by others' exorbitant expectations. This seemingly difficult task can be accomplished by following the tips given below, which I practice myself;      

• Find your hobbies and practice them regularly, this way you can keep your mind off things that aren't necessary. Hobbies once seemed stupid to me, but they really do wonders for your mood.
• Avoid indulging in unnecessary arguments with those who belittle you.
• Make friends and acquaintances who make you feel confident and support your right decisions.
• Lastly and MOST importantly, LOVE YOURSELF. Practice self-love by focusing on your hobbies and things that make you happy. 

QUOTE of the day - If you are searching for that one person that will change your life, take a look in the mirror. 

Until next time,

PEACE♡